Cutting off the old habits

Peaceful and Calm

Dissolution of old habits

There have been times over the last few months that I have felt a sense of loss, as if a part of me has gone.  I believe this is down to the fact that I have been releasing some old habitual ways of thinking.

I’ve certainly become more aware of the negative emotions and the thought patterns that block up the flow of life.  Those emotions that at one time appeared solid and real, now are seen as just a thought.  The impermanent nature of them is revealed more than ever.  In one way this is good but the flip side is it causes me to feel somewhat disconnected. To witness the dissolution of something you thought was so real can be a little unsettling, even if those old habitual ways of thinking where negative.

This is the point we can get stuck and boomerang back to the old way of thinking.  The truth is, it isn’t enough to just disengage with these old habitual ways of thinking. We have to delve a little deeper, to connect with the openness and spaciousness that the release of these habits have created, being curious to what we find without reacting or responding.  It could be,like me, there is a sense of loss, well what does that loss feel like in the body, where is it felt, in the tummy, in the heart, just be curious without trying to push it way.

Delving deeper

By delving a little deeper this way, we can slowly start to connect again to our true self and a transformation can start to take place.  It takes courage and strength to stay with it.  This is the real practice, it is by far from easy and I hope that if anybody is at this point, they find comfort in these words and know they are not alone.  With strength, compassion and self-care we can go beyond just dropping those old habits and start on the road to transformation.

Simplicity and the three pills

In my practice and more so now in my life off the cushion, I like to keep things simple.  We so love to over complicate things and if something seems too simple we think it just won’t work. In our quest to find something we can’t get, we forget to see what we already have.

Tenzin Wangyal Rinpoche sums it up beautifully in this recording.  Three precious pills….

A Stillness amidst all the activity, a silence lying underneath all the noise and a spaciousness which brings a feeling of warmth, compassion and calmness.  The three precious pills.


I hope you find these words helpful. Please feel free to comment below.  You can also contact me at info@themindshed.co.uk

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Thank you

Thanks again for reading.  If The Mind Shed is a little quiet from time to time, please bear with me.  I write as it is, from the heart, authentic. As such, at times it has to fall silent, to pause, and well, just time to connect with those three pills.  A bit of silence, stillness and spaciousness every now and again is so good for us all.

Be well.

From Roger.

Author: Roger

In 2015 I set out on a mission to uncover a life of happiness and contentment. Little did I know then that for years, I had been looking for it in all the wrong places. My Blog, The Mind Shed, tells the true story of this mission, a mission that will last a life time but involves going nowhere, just right here in this moment, the only moment we have. www.themindshed.co.uk inspiration for a happy life

6 thoughts on “Cutting off the old habits”

  1. Dear Roger, I do love your posts, the return to simplicity that resonates with me. Aspiring to a simple life, close to the universal truths and to nature, in the search of the middle way. It is so relevant today, more and more as time goes. Peaceful and resolute, like the Buddha, sitting under the Bodhi tree in Bodh Gaya.

    1. Hi Helena, Thank you so much for your comment, I’m so pleased it resonates with you. Your words are so true. Simple, peaceful, resolute and yes, so so relevant today, more than ever. Thank you for reading and dropping by the site. Be well 🙏

    1. Hi Kathleen, thankyou so much for your comment and for reading, thankyou also for your work too on getting mindfulness out there! be well, have a lovely week 🙏

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