Living a mindful life is often described as living in the present moment and as such I try not to dwell on the past or worry about the future. However, there have been times on this journey that I just want to stop and look back, to see where I’ve been. It’s a bit like I am climbing up a mountain and there are little view points dotted on the route up, each one I want to stop at and just have a look around. I personally think this is fine, as long as I view (view not re-live) my past whilst being firmly rooted in the present moment. Anyway, just so you know, that’s where I am at, one of those little viewpoints.
This journey into mindfulness has given me so many things, but the one thing that stands out for me is courage. A little while back I wrote a post titled “Mindfulness, making friends with anxiety and removing the mask”. In it, I wrote that as a child, I used to get quite anxious about going to school and had a real fear of failure which stayed with me well into my late twenties and early thirties. It stayed unaddressed until I was forced to deal with it, to take my head out of the sand. I look back now and see that I was given several wake up calls, telling me I needed to do something, to change my life. Or more accurately, change my view on life.
I look back now from this viewpoint I am on, I look at that anxious, emotional child that was me, uneasy in his own skin and think about what I would say to help him. I would kneel down in front of him, look him squarely in the face and say..
Just be you, never pretend to be anything other than yourself, you are unique, you are amazing.
Be kind and compassionate to yourself and to others
Have a strong back and a soft heart, you will need this in the future. Know that this is what it takes to be a real man, the courage and bravery to push through, but a heart of love and kindness.
Don’t be afraid my friend. Take these words with you, make them part of you, take them out when you need them.
I don’t have children (other than George, my little Jack Russell and I always tell him he is unique!) my life has taken me down a different path which means I probably never will, but I do believe we owe it to our children and future generations to tell them this. To tell them that they are unique, that they can just be themselves and to know that they can still be strong and brave and courageous, yet still be compassionate, kind and caring, with an open heart.
So from this little viewpoint, firmly grounded in this present moment, I take those words onwards with me on this journey, knowing they are a part of me now and I invite you to take them with you too…
Know that you are amazing and unique. Don’t be afraid, let life take you by the hand, be strong, be brave, be kind, just be you.