“In the silence it will appear, wait, be patient, all will be revealed”
I don’t mind admitting that this time of year usually leaves me feeling exhausted. December and the beginning of January is the busiest time of year at work, I am usually leaving the house long before the sun has risen and returning long after it has set.
Previous years have seen me battle this busyness, pushing away the tiredness, denying it, avoiding it, wishing it away. Sure enough, the more I pushed it away the harder it pushed back! Sleep and rest would become impossible as my mind raced with thoughts of the future and regrets about the past, little stories playing over and over, a sure sign of a tired mind.
So often we try to run away from our emotional states, we run and run and think we have got away from them, only to turn a corner and see them standing right there in front of us, we may repeat this time and time again. I know I have, it took me years to realise maybe there is a different way.
What if we stop running and pause. What if we turn to our emotions as if they are an old friend, helping us, telling us what we need to hear, showing us the way, pointing us to our own inner voice, our guide, our intuition.
A few days ago I turned and greeted the tiredness, I opened the door and invited it in, I surrendered to its call for deep rest. I gave it permission to be here, thanked it for telling me what I needed. In that acceptance something new began to form, a sense of peace, a place of contentment.
That night, I had the deepest sleep, a good ten hours solid. I woke up to the feeling that my mind had been filing things away all night, clearing and sorting. I felt fresh and deeply rested.
Sometimes our emotional states are trying to tell us something, they wont let up until we listen, until we fall silent, until we pause.
A guide to deep rest
- It sounds strange but give yourself permission to do nothing. Often we find an excuse to run, to carry on. There is always something to do, somewhere to go, but right now give yourself permission to stop, to breathe, to pause.
- Sit in quiet meditation for 10 to 15 minutes a day, this is your time. you don’t need to practice a certain technique, just sit there, be aware of your breath coming in and going out. Allow whatever thoughts, feelings or emotions to be there, you don’t need to change them, right now you don’t need to do anything. Allow thoughts and feelings to come and go. If you find yourself getting lost in a thought or stuck in an emotion, come back to the breath, back to just sitting.
- Say no to those unnecessary commitments, give yourself some space, some time to reflect, some time to pause.
- Sleep. There are some great guided sleep meditations on the free App insight timer. Give your mind the deep restorative sleep it needs to recover from the busyness of life.
- Accept yourself just as you are. You are amazing and unique, its okay to feel low but be kind to yourself, be your own best friend. Be gentle.
“Gently, Gently, somehow the spirit of gentleness tells us what we need. With a gentle strength, a gentle courage, we see our thoughts unmasked. Like the clouds in the sky and the ripples in the water, they come, they go”
The Mind Shed